I have a dear friend getting married in 19 days. Her story is very similar to a lot of brides out there: she’s stressed. In general, she is a pretty chill person and she has been amazingly calm during the entire wedding process (which, I might add, was only 4 months!). The problem, like many brides, is that her wedding is not the only thing on her plate. In fact, it isn’t even the most pressing…even 19 days before her wedding. She’s got work – which includes field trips, game days, and extreme energy and passion. She’s got her volunteer work at church – which requires her committment each weekend. And she’s got everyday life – balancing friends, family, and the fiance. Oh, and did I mention she hasn’t been able to sleep for more than 3 to 4 hours each night?! (She’s going to the doctor this Thursday.) My poor friend…she is going ninety mph in everything she does and doesn’t even have the chance to recharge at night. Does the exhaustion, anticipation, and anxiety sound familiar?
In talking with her the other night, I had one of those moments where real wisdom comes out of nowhere, and afterwards you have to admit that it was a pretty good thought. And now I pass it on to you…
The week before your wedding, pick a day that has nothing else scheduled (you might even have to cancel or move something around for this). That day is YOURS and YOUR FIANCE’S. No one else’s. Spend time together and have one simple rule: no talking about the wedding. Talk about everything else…marriage, work, school, life, etc. Do something together that the two of you absolutely enjoy, something that connects you as a couple. Go out to dinner, have a date night, watch a movie, play in the park, exercise…it is your day…do with it as you please.
This is such an important concept. It stills the hustle and bustle of life and the wedding hype and reconnects you and your (very-soon-to-be) future spouse. It lets you unwind, even if just for the day, and it affirms to you both that the other still has you in high priority. So go look at your calendar now, pick a day and write it down in permanant marker, and genuinely enjoy it when it comes.
